Without any iota of doubt, it could be challenging, tasking and many a time annoying being a parent. Apart from the fact that children are direct reflections of their parents, they also keenly watch their parents to form their behavioral basics. Despite this, so many parents fail to explore this opportunity to impact their children.
Ironically, parents teach their children not to lie, faithful and maintain integrity; yet same parents are disloyal; make unfulfilled pledges or ceaselessly ignore what is expected of them by the children. Expectedly, children protest in anger and doubtful of their parents.
Genuinely do a self appraisal of your attitude. Through this evaluation, good parenting’s consider the type of lesson they are teaching the children through their actions and inactions. In practical, it is not easy to accomplish as there are normally times annoyance. Nevertheless this self appraisal is inevitable at least for the purpose of being a good parent children will admire and proud of.
Besides, communication among children is most of the time mirrors from parents. The process of discussions within the family symbolizes a lot of things such as anger management, affections and hatred and so many like that. As a result of high sensitivity of children, good parenting is doing everything possible not to complain or throw up argument before children. Backbiting neighbors, friends or in-laws in the presence of children could be wrongly taken as a way of life.
Definitely, the children that were nurtured in a hostile home are most of the time matured with strive. Also, the self centered parents groomed self centered children. Watch out for the children that are brought up in a nagging, screaming and door slamming family, these traits develop in them as they matured. Anytime a marriage is passing through tension and difficulties, children suffers significantly from the ugly incidence. No matter how secret you keep it, it is erroneous to think that children will not sniff it out. The bitter truth is that apart from parents, children have no other focus. They look up to parents as their fountain of strength and assurance. So children will always sense when there is fragile peace in the family.
Anger is part of human existence as everyone inevitably gets angry at some time. As much as children show some understanding to anger, they can’t stand the full blown anger of the matured. Silent anger can however produce more havoc far above the physical one in many ways.
Children benefit considerably when they see their parents shifting ground by ironing out crucial issues. They sooner than later realize conflict settlement has nothing to do with a loser or gainer but peaceful agreement. This motivates them to reason along mutual agreement and co-existence. We can not write off misunderstanding completely even before the children, but the beauty of it is prompt settlement beg for forgiveness where you are found wanting and demonstrated by pure love and admiration. This eliminates any potential crack in the family bond.
Finally, good parenting is disallowing your children from being entangle in the conflict between parents. Reserve all the uncomplimentary remarks about your spouse to yourself and let them be neutral to both sides.