“The only stable state is the one in which all men are equal before the law.”
– Aristotle. Greek critic, philosopher, physicist, & zoologist (384 BC – 322 BC)
All children are unique in their own way and require to be treated as per their own needs, talents, and skills. A parent cannot expect all their children (especially if a parent has more than 1 child) to be equally good at all similar tasks. Some children more attention, some require less. Some children take more time to develop themselves, some take less. There are many factors that make them different from each other.
At no point of time can a comparison be made between two or more children regarding any aspect of life as each and every child grows by itself in circumstances that keep changing from time-to-time. After all, the values and the guidance that a parent inculcates within their children’s belief system is what creates the child’s responses, skills, habits, and attitude.
Children require to be treated equally between themselves. A comparison can have disastrous effects between siblings as it would discourage children to believe that they are self-sufficient and can take on all the challenges of life all by themselves.
A child remembers favoritism very well as a child takes it as a hurt deeply within themselves. They start thinking that they are unwise, incapable and undeserving. They even feel anger for their sibling which further turns into a rivalry and they start competing with each other.
What is most important is to develop the self-belief of the child so as to make the child tougher, wiser, decisive, responsible, creative, simpler and strong. A parent treating their children with favoritism is always a bad idea and leads to the path of destruction.
Treat your children with equal respect, attention, caring and love. The more you give, the more you will get.